Single Parenting and Dating
Single parenting and dating? They can coexist. I was a single parent for over fifteen years so I know how hard it is to try to have a social life. Even if you do make time for socializing, you may feel guilty for spending time away from your child. I’ve been there and done that. After many years of guilt and frustration, I realized that I was a better parent, and a happier person when I took time out for me.
If you want to date but don’t know where to start, I know at least ten people who’ve met their current spouse online. Several started by entering the search term: dating site in USA, and went from there. As long as you take safety precautions, online dating can be a great way to meet a like-minded partner.
If you feel like you don’t have enough time for dating, maybe you need to look at how you manage your time. Here are a few time wasters to look out for:
- Mindlessly surfing the internet
- Constantly scrolling through Facebook, Instagram, etc.,
- Watching more than a few hours of TV/Netflix/Hulu
- Gossiping on the phone
- Playing Candy Crush, Pokemon Go, etc.,
In the time you’ve spent doing any of the above, you could have met someone for coffee, created a profile on one of many dating sites, attended a local singles meet-up, participated in a singles-only church event, or gone on a blind date. If you’re not comfortable with any of these options, don’t give up on your goal of dating.
One morning on my way to work, my car broke down. I was only a half mile from my apartment but since my daughter needed to get to school, it was frustrating and of course a huge inconvenience. Out of nowhere, a stranger stopped to see if I needed any help. My car was DOA but I appreciated the kindness none the less. The next day, I ran into that stranger right outside my apartment. It freaked me out at first but then I discovered that he lived right next door. We’ll be celebrating our eighth wedding anniversary this year!
All I’m saying is have an open mind when it comes to meeting people in your neighborhood, at your child’s school, or even your co-workers. All it takes a simple “hello” or an act of kindness to get to know someone. That other person might be a single parent just like you and/or your future spouse. You really never know, do you?