How A DIY Hydrangea Wreath Told Me I Suck #mentalhealth
When I started making the hydrangea wreath featured in this post, I had an idea of how I wanted it to look. I had everything I needed to make my awesome idea come to fruition: the wreath form, the hydrangeas, ribbon, and glue. Approximately two minutes into my project, I realized my idea wasn’t going to work. Frustration. Irritation. And even a bit of anger. I was immediately frustrated and for a minute or two, the following thoughts ran through my head:
Then the following thoughts ran through my head:
I suck at crafting.
My ideas suck.
I can never do anything right.
Whoa. Talk about negativity.
Why in the hell am I beating myself up over a craft project? Why is that I can be my own worst enemy yet I’m a supportive cheerleader to others?
Why, why, why?
It’s because I was raised with an expectation of perfection. My father expected perfect grades, perfect behavior, perfect presentation, and perfect outcomes. But guess what? Perfection in life is subjective. What I may think is perfect, you may consider flawed. And that’s the problem I had while growing up. Perfection was not defined so I was always trying to achieve it. On my way to perfection, I was in search of positive reinforcement but I seldom received it.
As a result, I spent the majority of my teens feeling like a failure with an endless loop of negative self-talk swirling around in my head. Therapy helped me get rid of that in my early twenties but it still comes back to visit me from time to time.
Negative self-talk is one of the things I helped my clients with when I was a practicing therapist. I remember telling one client in particular that self-care is a lifelong practice. In other words, there will be a time when old dysfunctional habits will rear their ugly head (usually when stressed, tired, or sick) and we have to recognize them for what they are—old, bad habits—not truths.
After taking a deep breath, refocusing my brain, and relaxing with a cup of tea, I realized:
I don’t suck at crafting.
My ideas don’t suck.
I can do (most) things right.
And someone else’s concept of perfection is no longer my goal.
The hydrangea wreath? I love it and I’m very happy with the way it turned out.
Yes. Love and happiness. I feel you every day.
Proof that the child who felt like a failure no longer exists.
Now, here’s the tutorial on the DIY Hydrangea Wreath that told me I suck. But lost the argument.
I started with a 16-inch styrofoam wreath form and 7 large artificial hydrangea flowers with leaves. Using wire cutters, I trimmed off the leaves and all but one inch of the stem on each of the flowers.
I arranged the flowers on the wreath in a pattern I liked (I alternated green and purple). Note: you’re not attaching the flowers to the wreath in this step, just laying them on the wreath in a pattern.
Note the position of the flower on the wreath, remove it, and then use a screw or nail to make a hole into the styrofoam. This hole will be where you insert the stem of the hydrangea.
Since I knew the hydrangea weren’t going to fully cover the styrofoam, I decided to use an open weave ribbon to wrap around the wreath. I purchased this wired white ribbon at Michael’s.
As I wrapped the ribbon around the wreath, I tried to leave the holes visible. This will make inserting the hydrangea stems much easier. 😉
This ribbon measures 1.5 inches wide and 25 feet long. I ended up using the entire spool.
Secure the ends of the ribbon with a bit of hot glue (especially if you will be hanging your wreath outdoors). Next, I added a drop of hot glue in each hole and inserted the hydrangea flower stem into the styrofoam.
I could have covered the whole wreath in hydrangea but I decided that it needed a bit of texture, and neutral color so say hello to my grapevine bird nest . I’m not 100% certain but I believe the bird’s nest is four inches in diameter.
Remember those leaves that you cut from the hydrangea stems earlier? Arrange those on the bird nest in a pattern you like and secure with hot glue.
I used clear elastic string to attach the bird’s nest to the wreath form.
I could have used a burlap ribbon to hang the wreath from the door but I decided against it. Instead, I hung it directly on the wreath hanger.
Isn’t she pretty?
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