It Happened To Me: Stop Cyberbullying {Resources Included}

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Stop Cyberbullying

I haven’t blogged about it but I’m about to. For the past few weeks, I’ve been a victim of cyberbullying. I’ve been harassed on Facebook. I’ve been harassed on my blog. I’ve received threatening messages.  I have been called a liar, a thief, and a few other choice names. Several persons with blocked IP addresses have tried to hack into my blog——–>repeatedly. Am I kidding? No. This has been no joke.

In an effort to stop the harassment, I blocked people on Facebook. I reported said people to Facebook. I have “turned the other cheek” more times than I care to count. Was it easy for me not to retaliate? Absolutely not. Did I want to publicly “call out” the offenders as the harassment was occurring? Yes. Do I still have the urge to publicly call them out? Yes. But I’m not going to. They don’t deserve the acknowledgement.

Normally, I don’t feel the “need” to prove anything to anyone—especially to those who are falsely accusing me of something that is untrue. However, in this situation, an outside party would have been hurt, and that’s not okay. So, I provided my accusers with irrefutable evidence that shows I am not a liar or thief.   Did anyone apologize? Nope. Did anyone make a public statement admitting that I had been wrongfully accused? Nope.  Apologizing to someone when you are in the wrong requires maturity and obviously, these bullies lack maturity.

Please know that I’m not sharing this with you to air dirty laundry. I’m sharing this with you to increase awareness that no one is immune to bullying. Not me. Not you. Not your kids. Not anyone.

If you are ever the target of a cyberbully, don’t even bother responding. Take a screenshot of the incident, block the person and try to move on. Arguing with a bully only encourages him or her to amp up their harassment. Should the bullying occur on a social media site, report them to that site. Finally, if you need to, file a police report.

In light of these recent events, I have selected an appropriate quote from one of my favorite movies—Remember the Titans.

  • Coach Boone: I don’t scratch my head unless it itches and I don’t dance unless I hear some music. I will not be intimidated. That’s just the way it is.

 

Yep. I will not be intimidated. That’s definitely the way it is.

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Here a few cyberbullying resources for your reference:

Resources posted by fellow bloggers:

Comments

  1. Stephanie Foster says

    I’m sorry that you have had to deal with faceless bullies. The internet is wonderful but it has made it easy for people to type and do things that they would never do in person.

  2. says

    First off – Virtual Hugs to you! No one should ever be bullied, online or off! My son recently had a run-in with a cyber bully. His (now) ex-girlfriend was dating him and another boy, and he broke up with her. At the time, he was finishing 8th grade, so was the girlfriend, and the other guy was in 10th grade. The other boy was threatening my son, posting things about him on facebook, and it even got so bad that when my son tried to defend himself, the boys MOTHER jumped in and threatened my son! We tried to reach out to her, and were blocked on facebook, while they continued to make life h*ll for my child. We ended up having to get the police involved, and it was NOT pretty. I have never understood why people feel the need to bully others!

    • Kimberly--Blog Owner says

      Thank you so much for the support Stacey—I truly appreciate it. I am really sorry to hear that your son experienced online bullying as well. Sometimes, the parents’ behaviors can be worse than their kids behaviors, ya know? That other mom had NO right to threaten your son. Wow.
      Before blogging, I was a mental health therapist for a decade. Certain people resort to bullying because they can’t handle not being in control of situations so they lash out. In addition, people who bully usually have poor impulse control, poor coping skills, and poor self esteem as well.
      Thank you so much for sharing your story. If you blog about it, be sure to let me know and I’ll add your post link up above :)

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